April 1: Toes

Can we improve toe
dexterity with some work?
Practice makes perfect?

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April = Haiku

So I’m still experiencing the doldrums when it comes to creativity, and now it’s making me mad. I have been writing a little bit, with pen and paper, but what I’ve been writing is short notes. I haven’t thought anything through enough to write anything coherent.

I’ve decided instead of attacking my block and trying to power through, which is obviously not working, I’m going to nibble at it. I’m going to attempt a haiku a day for the month of April. It turns out, April is also National Poetry Month – happy coincidence.

My fingers are crossed that this will jump start my brain. Can’t hurt, right?

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Sensitive

I’ve been thinking about the Miami Dolphins locker room culture for a while now, ever since the independent investigator the Dolphins and the NFL hired released the official report on its findings.  It made me sad for Jonathan Martin; based on what was in the report, he seems like an intelligent, sensitive guy who is also physically big and strong.  This guy is everything a modern man is supposed to be and should have the world by the tail.  Instead, his NFL career may be over because the pundits and the old guard of the world have deemed him weak.  The report also made me sad for Richie Incognito because this guy still has no idea what he did wrong; nobody in his life has cared enough about him to teach him that bullying comes from a place of weakness rather than strength.  From my perspective, when you’re as physically imposing as Incognito is, to have to bully in order to lead indicates failure.

I was at a barbecue at my friend A’s house, and one of her other friends said something about all women being manipulative and cruel, and because I had the Dolphins locker room on my mind, I snapped at him and brought the mood of the room down by starting a conversation about it.  (I promise I will try to be lighter and more pleasant if any of you invite me to one of your social gatherings.)  One of the other women there said something about not understanding sensitive people at all, told a story about stopping a bully from torturing her sensitive younger brother, and finding that he thought she’d made things worse.  She equated sensitivity with weakness, and then A jumped in with her mad diplomatic skills and explained that sensitivity and weakness are not the same thing.  One day, I hope to be as diplomatic as she was in that moment.

I’ve been thinking about the sensitive people in the world; in my immediate family, I’m not considered to be one of the sensitive ones, and I’m also therefore not one of the considerate ones.  This hurts, and I also think it’s unfair because according to the sensitive people in my family, sensitivity involves knowing when someone who’s said x actually means y.  As someone who strives to be transparent in all her dealings, this frustrates me.

It occurred to me, though, that it’s actually the sensitive people in the world who effect change. You’d think that it was the super tough people, the ones who can power through anything, who effect change, but it’s precisely because we can power through that we tend not to put our energy into making the world better.  We may perceive injustice, it may pierce our souls as deeply as it does the sensitive among us, but we persevere.  We achieve in the face of unfairness and seemingly insurmountable obstacles, and we celebrate that as an accomplishment, as a demonstration of strength.

I don’t think that’s wrong.  Powering through is an achievement, and it takes work and a stiff upper lip.  I’ve realized in the last few weeks, though, that driving systemic cultural change requires more work and a stiffer upper lip, and that the catalysts for this kind of seismic change is often a sensitive person who simply cannot stand the injustice anymore.  I get to vote because trailblazing, sensitive women in the early part of the last century didn’t want to keep their noses to the grindstone trying to make the system work as best it could for them.  The injustice pained them too keenly to be satisfied with persuading the men in their lives to vote the way the women in their lives wanted them to.

We’ve made progress in racial equality in this country because in the 1960s, instead of keeping their heads down and out of the line of sight of racist thugs, powering through as best they could through a culture that was wrong, some overly sensitive African-Americans had enough of the bullshit and stood up and called the country on it.  (I realize that I have oversimplified in both my examples here, and I’m sorry for it; I’m also trying to meet my self-imposed Monday deadline.  I will also apologize here for my sentence-paragraph.)

I’ve always wondered if I lived in the Star Wars universe whether I would be strong enough to work for the Rebel Alliance.  We all want to be heroes, or at the very least, on the same side as the good guys.  Powering through has been my motto for as long as I can remember, though.  If I want to be a good guy, I think I need to get more serious about being more sensitive.  (I still refuse to try to be psychic.)

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Listening to Dragons

So, I’m in a fun, negative cycle where I beat myself about my lack of accomplishments, marketable talent, and overall worth as a person/friend.  Good times.  I read The Gift of Imperfection by Brene Brown in preparation for an online class that starts at the end of March, and she offers some good practices for how to stop doing that.  I’m working on it, is what I’m saying.  I don’t think it will surprise you to read that it is not easy; in fact, I don’t think it’s an exaggeration to call it back-breaking.

Anyway, one of the things I’ve been criticizing myself about is not being a good listener.  People will share news or a story, and I can feel myself starting to zone out while they speak as I prepare my own allegedly clever story in response.  Being able to respond with an equal or better story does not constitute good listening.  I used to have a job where my success depended on my ability to listen and make conversational connections for other people, so I know I have the ability to be a better listener than I have been.  I don’t know when I fell out of the habit, but I hate that I have.

In Brown’s book, she says that sometimes it helps to know that others are struggling with the same issues that you are, to know that you’re not alone.  I’m not sure I agree.  I know that I’m not the only bad listener out there.  I see it all the time on Facebook, especially in the comments when my mom friends post something about their children.  I’ve discovered a new horror in this self-critical spiral, which is that I’ve started to criticize (in my head, luckily) people I don’t know.  My mom friends will post something about their adorable children, and inevitably, THEIR mom friends will post something similar that their own adorable children have done, but in a more adorable or smarter or more horrific way, depending on the topic of the original status.  On a rational level, I know that the mom commenters are only trying to offer support; the irrational side of me flinches at the one-upmanship vibe I get from them.  Then I flinch that I’m judging people I don’t know over an issue that has nothing to do with me.

I have been exposing myself to many opportunities to flinch.  I got stuck in an airport for several hours recently, and I eavesdropped on a lot of conversations.  I’d say that in a solid 60% of them, people weren’t talking TO each other; rather, they were talking AT each other.  I wonder how many of them noticed that they were engaged in a competition rather than a conversation, and then I remembered that it was none of my business and that people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.  I put a stop to my judge-y, critical spiral by putting in earplugs.  No reason to inflict the ugliness in my brain and heart on strangers, even silently.  Silence doesn’t mean non-existence, and ugliness is quick to proliferate.

I reread a couple of books that I picked up when I was 20, The Blue Sword and The Hero and the Crown.  They are YA fantasy books, and I love them for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is that the main characters are women who have agency, true hearts, and clean souls (they definitely don’t simper).  In The Hero and the Crown, there’s a dragon that gets slain, and its skull gets taken back to the palace as a trophy.  The problem is that the skull still has the power to whisper horrible, soul-eroding doubts and criticism to everyone within the city.  We’re all fighting dragon skulls in our own heads and hearts.  If yours has been louder than usual lately like mine has, I wish you luck and strength in beating it back.  I think for me, getting better at listening isn’t just going to be about turning my focus away from myself; it’s also going to be about figuring out what triggers make the dragon’s voice louder and taking back control of the volume.

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Rattlers

Writer’s block still has me in its grip, as you might have been able to tell by the lack of a post on Thursday.  Here are the things that have been rattling around for a while that I’d like to write about but haven’t been able to find the words:

  • The Miami Dolphins locker room and the husbands of my friends and the dissonance around what we consider to be manhood and how we celebrate and reward it
  • The time my mom and I got lost and ended up walking for two rainy hours on a Taiwanese mountain where nobody spoke English, and the sole of my boot cracked
  • The time in Taiwan when the concierge wrote in Chinese that my mom couldn’t eat meat and she ended up with seafood noodle soup in a pork broth anyway
  • The strange loneliness that having the wrong person in your life causes
  • The way that flights these days act like dominoes when one small thing goes wrong
  • The confusion I feel and consequent frustration with their teachers when I tutor kids who are doing math that they’re not equipped to do

I’m stranded at an airport, which you would think would give me lots of time to work out my writer’s block issue, but that’s not how writer’s block works for me.  I know some people advocate writing something, anything, every day, and that’s the way to get over the block; I find this makes the block linger longer.  The malaise is making me mad and scaring me some.  I haven’t figured out how to thump myself out of it.

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Certainty

A few weeks ago during a conversation with a friend, she said something interesting to me, which is that one of the things that gets in our way as humans is certainty.  (She was more eloquent, and her context was more beautiful, and her implications were much, much deeper.)  She said it took her years to understand this.

Here’s the crux.  When we are certain, we are closed.  When we are certain, we stop learning and exploring and discovering what we can about whatever thing it is about which we are certain.  And after a split second of confusion, understanding came in a flash of lightning.

I got a taste of it last week in the comments section of a friend’s Facebook post.  AZ shared a link from Mike Rowe explaining why he lent his voice to Walmart’s advertisement regarding its plan to spend $250 million over the next ten years on purchasing goods made in the U.S.  I read Rowe’s entire post, the gist of which was, “This is a good thing.  Please step out of your worldview for a moment and consider this with integrity.”

One of the reasons I love this friend is that even though she dislikes Walmart and its reputed business practices, she still expressed some optimism about its initiative, and she invited discussion.  Most of the discussion that ensued involved skepticism over Walmart’s motives and optimism about the desired result.  There were a couple of people, though, who couldn’t get past their certainty that Walmart is a terrible company and that, therefore, this initiative is also terrible.  I shouldn’t have gotten involved, but I did and found myself in the dumbfounding position of defending Walmart.  My position was that Walmart may be a terrible company, but even for the wrong reasons, the company is doing the right thing, and that I’d take that any day.

This is a sampling of the responses:  Walmart is horrible to its workers (news articles would indicate this is probably true); Walmart has horrible business practices (the stories about how it conducted itself in Mexico indicate this is also probably true); Walmart is only spending a drop in its gigantic bucket on this, so it’s just PR; Costco is a much better company; and the U.S. doesn’t need Walmart’s help with manufacturing jobs anyway.

I almost sent an e-mail to my friend asking her to give me several weeks’ warning if one of the most vehement anti-Walmarters were to be in the same room with me.  If Costco were doing this, this woman would be completely stoked and add another verse to the Costco praise hymn.  Because it’s Walmart and because she knows for certain how terrible Walmart is, she has found herself in the position of arguing that pouring $250 million into the U.S. economy and specifically into manufacturing is not needed.

But do you see what I just did?  I expressed certainty about who this woman is and how worthy I consider her of my time and friendship based on how she reacted to one issue, and it’s an issue that wouldn’t make it into my top 20 list of concerns on an average day.  Certainty in all its forms for all its reasons poses danger, and certainty surrounds us everywhere we look.  It underpins the divides that we see in politics, in science, in technology, in the mompetitions – everywhere.  We are all convinced that we are right, to the point that we’re not willing even to consider the other side.

I have a request for you today.  If you have an opinion on which you are not willing to budge, please take a few minutes and try to gain a real understanding of why someone with the opposing view might hold that view, and then try to stop painting that person with the stubborn/stupid/ignorant/evil brush.  Life is so much richer and more complex than that.  Being open and less certain may help us all appreciate and remember it.

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A Fairy Tale for the Rest of Us

Once upon a time in a land very close by, there lived a girl – not a princess, a regular girl.  This girl was smart and sassy and generous and kind, and her parents raised her to believe that when she grew up, she could be anything she wanted to be if she worked hard and told the truth.

When the girl grew up and became a woman, she discovered that while the world didn’t want what her parents had taught her to be true, she had the ability to move the pieces in her life so that they were.  Moving life pieces also required hard work and honesty, but the harder she worked, and the closer she hewed to the truth, the richer the woman became in the quality of her work and the largeness of her friends’ hearts.  Every day, the woman tried to remember to be grateful for the many blessings that she had.

There was one thing missing, though, that no amount of work and truth achieved for the woman:  a partner.  She had business partners, and she had travel buddies, and she had partners in crime, but the woman didn’t have what some people call a “life partner.”  She preferred to think of this man, because the woman was looking for a man, as someone who would be on her team, who would be fighting in hand-to-hand combat in the trenches with her, and who would have qualities such that the two of them against the world would be unstoppable.

Over the years, she’d met many candidates.  Because the candidates seemed perfect on paper or made her laugh, she’d ignore the voice whispering in her head or her heart that he wasn’t quite right.  She powered through, changing what she thought were minor aspects of her life to make room for these unsuitable men.  Lucky for her, these dalliances never lasted, because the men couldn’t be trusted to be on her team or to fight in the trenches, and they didn’t have the qualities that she lacked that would make them unstoppable in their quest for world domination.

Then the woman started to notice that the same thing was happening to many of her friends.  These fellow Amazons would find men that spoke to their hearts, and then ignore the whispering that followed.  The Amazons would offer to change minor and even major parts of their lives in order to ensure that they could live their lives with the men in their hearts.  The Amazons changed the lengths or the colors of their hair; they supported teams in sports about which they didn’t care but learned enough to impress many; and they contemplated moving from one side of the country to the other.  The men in the Amazons’ hearts, though, would demur:  “I can’t take care of you the way that you deserve.”

The first dozen times the woman heard this, directly and indirectly, it surprised her, and then she felt embarrassed – had the parents of her world made a mistake in teaching her and her sisters to work hard and to be true to themselves?  Would they have had better luck in finding their teammates if they had pretended to be less independent and less encumbered with opinions?

After many years of doubt, the woman got mad.  The woman’s fury that the world seemed to be full of men who think that the women in their lives are not women but princesses, and not even real princesses, like Kate Middleton, who have obligations to their subjects, but old-fashioned Disney princesses, who only have to maintain their lovely, cartoon hair.  What she and her sisters wanted to say to all these men was this, knowing the men wouldn’t understand and that most of them would be scared:

We don’t want you to take care of us.  We can take care of ourselves.  What we want, what we need, is someone whom we can count on to be at our sides in the heat of battle, who will never betray the secrets that we share just before the sun rises, and who will never let us be surprised by an attack on a blind spot. 

The woman and her sisters didn’t learn how to fight for themselves and support themselves all through the years just so they could drop their armor for an army of Disney princes who chose to ignore what the women said and did in favor of the inadvertent indoctrination of a cartoon mouse.

So the woman decided to continue her quest to work hard and to be honest and to find a man who will not just be content but proud beyond the telling of it to stand at her side and take on the world.  And if the woman doesn’t find that man… well, there’s always whisky.

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Lazy Foodie Contradiction Recipes: Chapter 3

Not only am I a lazy foodie, I am also a lazy blogger.  Y’all, I’m still feeling uninspired, even though I have been on some great adventures the past few months.  In any event, I have fallen in love with and added two dishes to my lazy foodie contradiction rotation of dinner items.

Roast Chicken

I roasted my first chicken last week.  This surprised some of my friends.  I love to cook, and roast chicken is one of my favorite foods, so I can understand the surprise.  Chicken looked HARD to me, though.  I didn’t want to overcook it and end up with dry, unappetizing chicken; I didn’t want to undercook it and end up with salmonella.  And so I bought rotisserie chicken at the grocery store and admired other people’s roast chickens from afar.  (If you are a roast chicken pro, I appreciate your patience with this entry.)

I visited my friend Maria in Boston last week, though, she of the fast chili, and she was equally fast with roast chicken.  The magic Maria wields comes from the fact that she has been a single mom for so many years.  There’s something about watching her throw together dinner with such ease that inspires me.  And so I roasted a chicken when I got home from Boston.

I got the smallest chicken I could find at the grocery store, which was 3.5 pounds.  I thought that was bird overkill for one person, but I was so, so, so wrong because I love leftovers.  Maria put potatoes, carrots, and onions under her bird; I can’t eat potatoes, so I substituted butternut squash.  I used a 3 pound butternut squash, two handfuls of Brussels sprouts, several small carrots, and about 4 large shallots.  (I added the Brussels sprouts and the carrots because they were on the edge of extinction in the crisper drawer.)  

I knew that the veg wouldn’t need as long in the oven as the chicken would, so to make up for that, I didn’t chop the Brussels sprouts or the shallots.  I cut the carrots into the length of baby carrots, and I halved the pieces that were more than an inch in diameter.  The squash I cut into half inch slices then quartered.

I drizzled some olive oil in the bottom of the roasting pan to avoid sticking, put the roasting rack in the pan, and then threw in the chopped up vegetables.   Then I drizzled with more olive oil and sprinkled with all the dried herbs that I have until it looked right.  (There’s a picture below.)

Next, I rinsed the chicken, which the butcher handed to me with the drumsticks already tied together.  After I dried it with paper towels, I massaged it all over with I think three tablespoons of salted butter that I melted.  Sinful.  I don’t care.  Then I sprinkled with more of the same dried herbs, panicked and poured a cup of chicken broth into the pan, stabbed the breast with the business end of the meat thermometer, and put the pan in the oven (preheated to 350).

After the thermometer beeped that the breast had reached 165, I gave it another 10 minutes to let the dark meat cook all the way.  When I pulled that beast out of the oven, it smelled like heaven.  (If I could have built the aroma into the picture I’ve attached, you would understand.)

Here’s what I’d do differently next time.

  • I’d take the thermometer sensor after the breast was done and stab it into the thigh until it told me it was 175, because the juices did not run clear — they were still pink.  SALMONELLA.
  • I’d cut back the amount of veg, because I had to eat a huge plate of roasted vegetables for many, many meals in a row, and while I’m sure it was good for me, it taxed my system.  Ahem.
  • I’d cut the butternut squash into one-inch slices, then quarter, and I’d use larger Brussels sprouts (the little ones got mushy — with the smaller pieces of squash, it was too much mushy texture).
  • I’d soften instead of melt some of the butter and then massage it on the breast meat UNDER the skin.  My mouth is watering just thinking about this.
  • I’d skip oiling the pan — the chicken broth accomplishes the same thing and increases the volume of delicious, plain gravy.
  • I might quarter a lemon and put it in the chicken cavity.

I need to learn how to carve a chicken, but after that, if you come to my home for a dinner party, be warned that roast chicken is on the rotation.  And if you are a roast chicken pro who has read this far, please share your favorite variations.

Roasted Tofu

My friend AZ has two children under the age of 4.  This makes her one of the busiest people on the planet.  She is also a vegetarian who makes much better food choices than I do.  I got to do a quick visit with her and her husband and kids; we went on a field trip to Trader Joe’s (dangerous for me because of all the delicious, forbidden food), and then she started dinner.  I watched her cube tofu, stir it with some mystery items, and then while my back was turned chasing her toddler around the house, the tofu disappeared.  I didn’t think anything of it until it was time for me to leave, and her house smelled amazing.  I commented (of course), and she got all excited and told me it was tofu in the oven.  Y’all.  My family is Korean-American, and my mother is an ovo-lacto-pescatarian, so I have eaten tofu for as long as I can remember, and we never used our oven for tofu.  AZ is a genius.

AZ said to toss the tofu with some soy sauce and spices and put them in the oven.  Tonight, I cubed a block of extra-firm tofu, tossed with soy sauce and onion and garlic powders (LAZY foodie), and then stopped, because I had no idea what temperature the oven should be or how long the tofu needed to bake.  Luckily, we live in an age of texting, and AZ informed me 375 and 20-25 minutes.  I am only a little bit ashamed to say that while it took about 5 minutes to prepare the tofu and 25 minutes to roast it, it only took me 10 minutes to snarf down an entire block of cubed tofu.

In my defense I had chicken AND beef fajitas for lunch at 2:30pm.  Next time, after pulling the tofu out of the oven, I’ll let it cool and make my family’s favorite salad, which is a head of red leaf lettuce torn up and tossed with sesame oil, rice wine vinegar, a tiny bit of soy sauce, garlic salt, and toasted sesame seeds.  My hope is that the salad will limit my tofu consumption to half a block (I have doubts about this attempt to fool my stomach).

Y’all, I think there’s nobody better than working moms to teach a girl how to get a healthful, delicious dinner on the table with not much effort and no time flat.  If you know one, you should hang out at her elbow on a weeknight.  It might change your life.

My twin-sized beauty, covered in butter and herbs, over a California king-sized bed of vegetables.

My twin-sized beauty, covered in butter and herbs, over a California king-sized bed of vegetables.

My beauties after an hour and twenty minutes in the oven.

My beauties after an hour and twenty minutes in the oven.

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Bourbon Lessons

I don’t know how to express this and have it come out right, so I will just write it:  I love whisk(e)y.  I spell it that way because when the Scots, Japanese, and Canadians produce the ambrosia, we spell it whisky.  When the Americans and Irish produce it, we spell it whiskey.  (Some folks claim that the spellings are interchangeable.  Those people are wrong.)  Scotch, bourbon, and rye are all types of whisk(e)y.  If you don’t mind a standardized test analogy, whisk(e)y:Scotch::automobile:sedan.

In any event, I finally got off my duff and visited Louisville, KY, the bourbon center of the U.S., between Christmas and New Year’s.  I persuaded a couple of friends from law school (Kris and John), whom I don’t get to see frequently enough since I moved away from DC, to meet me there.  I can’t speak for them, but I had a fantastic weekend, and if you decide to go, I want you to do the same.  So here are some things you should know about bourbon and about the distilleries we visited.

1.  Bourbon means something specific.  According to the law, for a whiskey to be labeled a bourbon, it must meet all five of the following requirements:  (1) it must be produced in the U.S.; (2) the mash bill (i.e., the mix of grains used to create the distillate) must be at least 51% corn; (3) it must be aged in new, charred barrels made of oak; (4) the distillate must be no more than 125 proof when it goes into the barrel for aging; and (5) it must be bottled at 80 proof or more.  There are more rules about what constitutes a straight bourbon whiskey, which has to do with how long the bourbon ages in the barrel.

2.  Don’t rent a limo.  We got one for the day that we visited Heaven Hill, Willett, and Maker’s Mark because none of us wanted to risk any sort of dangerous driving.  We didn’t taste enough bourbon to make a dent in sobriety for any of us, and Kris and I are both lightweights.  Partly, this is because the distilleries are so far apart (more on that below).  Mostly, it’s because the distilleries don’t pour a lot of bourbon for you to taste (specifically to avoid any drunk driving).  When I go back, I won’t go to the trouble or incur the expense of a limo.

3.  Stay in downtown Louisville.  There are hotels and charming B&Bs closer to the distilleries.  The issue for an urban foodie with dietary restrictions like me is the lack of food options.  In the rural counties surrounding Louisville, where most of the distilleries are located, you will find fast food, larger chains, and southern cooking (sometimes all three in a single restaurant).  Louisville is a perfect, central location that offers interesting, non-chain restaurants with delicious food and cocktails, whiskey-based and otherwise.  (We loved Down One Bourbon Bar and Hillbilly Tea.)

4.  Choose your tours carefully.  Most of the people who were on the tours with us didn’t know much about bourbon beyond its color.  This made me a favorite with the guides because of how excited I was to be there and how many of their products I had tried.  The newbies worked my nerves.  If you don’t care for whisk(e)y or bourbon, distillery tours are not the appropriate place to make that known, and if you must make it known, once is enough.  I also don’t like people, so take that into account.

5.  Most of the distilleries are not close together.  It’s not like Napa or Sonoma or the Willamette Valley or any other wine region I’ve ever visited.  There are a few exceptions (which I’ve noted below), but most of the distilleries are pretty far apart – like anywhere from 45-90 minutes on the freeway far apart.  I didn’t do enough research before going – things turned out great for us, but I might have planned differently if I knew then what I know now.

6.  Don’t expect to taste or buy special bottles.  Kentucky law requires the distilleries to sell and send their products to their distributors, who then sell and send back bottles to the distillery.  They are not holding back special bottles for the people in the know, and if they did, I doubt that the guides would have access to it.  Most of the guides are people who have retired from their former careers and don’t want to watch soap operas all day.  Don’t get me wrong – they are knowledgeable and enthusiastic about their bourbons.  I’m just pretty sure they don’t have access to rare bottles, because believe me, I was at my most charming in the hope of being wrong.

7.  Heaven Hill.  Heaven Hill is the largest family-owned and -operated bourbon producer left.  They bottle under a number of different labels, including a few of my favorites:  Elijah Craig, Evan Williams, and Rittenhouse 100.  Heaven Hill has done a lovely job with the displays in the Heritage Center.  You’ll learn the history of bourbon and a couple of the legends that surround how it evolved.  I love liquor lore.  We got more thorough information here about the rickhouses (i.e., the warehouses where they keep the barrels for aging) than we did anywhere else.  They’ve also cut open a used barrel for sniffing, and now I know what heaven smells like. Heaven Hill ages and bottles bourbon in Bardstown; milling, fermentation, and distillation happen elsewhere.

8.  Willett.  Willett is literally across the street from Heaven Hill (don’t walk it – no sidewalks, curvy country freeway, etc.).  Not only is it easy to visit both in a single morning, but I found the contrast between a giant like Heaven Hill and a small, artisanal producer like Willett fascinating.  I enjoyed the tour (we saw the mill, the fermenting tanks, the stills, and the barrels), and we met a very friendly dog (Cooper, who I think is a beagle) from one of Willett’s neighbors.  I expected to love it there, but I didn’t because of the tour guide.  She openly sneered at the big distilleries.  I understand highlighting what makes you different and spinning that as an advantage, but I think that the bourbon industry is large enough that there’s no need to disparage your competitors.  Also, she referred to LBJ as “Lyndon Bird Johnson,” and then she claimed to be a native Texan who referred to herself three minutes later as being born and growing up in St. Louis.  Pandering sucks, and I don’t like it.

9.  Maker’s Mark.  Maker’s Mark was the most commercial of the tours, which we expected.  It was also the most crowded, which we also expected.  The only reason I would recommend visiting the Maker’s Mark facility is that they let you taste the distiller’s beer (i.e., the mixture of milled grain, water, and yeast) as it’s fermenting.  If you go, you can pay for the privilege of dipping a bottle into Maker’s Mark’s signature red wax.  We considered it, because the tour guide told us that in order to work in the distillery, you have to be able to dip at least 25 bottles per minute.  TWENTY FIVE BOTTLES PER MINUTE.  We decided against it because we were hungry and cold.  Maker’s Mark is way the heck out there, about another 20-25 minutes from Heaven Hill and Willett.

10.  Evan Williams Bourbon Experience.  As you might have guessed, the Evan Williams Bourbon Experience is owned by Heaven Hill and located in downtown Louisville.  We spent Saturday at Heaven Hill, Willett, and Maker’s Mark and then went ziplining underground at the Louisville Megacavern on Sunday morning (I had my doubts about ziplining because I am lazy and uncoordinated, but I highly recommend this).  Liquor laws in the south being what they are, the Evan Williams Bourbon Experience was our best bet to taste bourbon on a Sunday afternoon.  I wasn’t sure if it would be worth it to go, given that Kris and I had gone to Heaven Hill the day before.  We decided to buy tickets anyway because John couldn’t take the tour at Heaven Hill.  I think it’s worth it.  You get an Evan Williams-specific history, and there’s more information about the impact of Prohibition on the industry (liquor lore!).  Incidentally, Kris, John, and I met in law school in Texas, and we ate a late lunch at and loved the Mexican restaurant next door.  Be ready for enormous portions and delicious margaritas.

11.  Buffalo Trace.  I finally did a little research on Google Maps and figured out that I had time to visit one more distillery before heading home on Monday morning.  Most of the locals we talked to enthusiastically endorsed Buffalo Trace.  A friend recommended Four Roses, which has won a number of awards from the whiskey cognoscenti.  The deciding vote came from a bartender friend of mine in California, who texted paragraphs on why I should visit Buffalo Trace over Four Roses, mostly having to do with Buffalo Trace’s history, and the labels it bottles under:  Van Winkle, Eagle Rare, Buffalo Trace, Colonel E.H. Taylor, Thomas Handy, and Sazerac, among others.  I loved the Buffalo Trace tour the most of all the tours I took, and I liked their grounds the best, too.  We didn’t get to visit the fermenting tanks, but the whole property smells like fermenting mash, so I wasn’t disappointed.  This one is definitely on my list for a second, longer visit.

12.  Four Roses.  I did a little bit more Google Maps research in the parking lot at Buffalo Trace and discovered that Four Roses is less than 30 minutes away, and it was on my way back to my sister’s place in Memphis, so I ended up going to both.  Four Roses has separate distilling and warehousing/bottling facilities, so you don’t get to sniff the bourbon aging in barrels, which is my favorite part of any whiskey-related tour.  I find Four Roses to be kind of clinical and overly scientific in its approach to bourbon.  I prefer it when the producer treats bourbon as more of an art, but science gives you consistency, and art does not.  Four Roses distillation takes place in a large, commercial facility, and the tour was huge.  You can drive the 45 minutes to the warehousing/bottling facilities (which are between Jim Beam, which we did not visit, and Heaven Hill, if you drive from downtown Louisville) and tour those, where they will also sell you a used Four Roses bourbon barrel for $94.  I was tempted, but I needed to hit the road.  Four Roses has the best gift shop of the places we visited.

It was a great weekend, and I’ll definitely be going back to take the longer, more involved tours a couple of the distilleries offer.  Please keep your fingers crossed that I do not also end up with a used bourbon barrel.  I seriously don’t have any place to put it.

The tasting at Heaven Hill in Bardstown, KY.

The tasting at Heaven Hill in Bardstown, KY.

Fermenting mash at Willett.

Distiller’s beer fermenting at Willett.

Old-fashioned fermenting tub at Maker's Mark.

Old-fashioned fermenting tub at Maker’s Mark.

Freshly bottled and tagged Eagle Rare (sorry for the resolution -- not allowed to get very close)

Freshly bottled and tagged Eagle Rare (sorry for the resolution — not allowed to get very close)

Buffalo Trace moves its barrels on tracks.  Clever, and cool to see.

Buffalo Trace moves its barrels on tracks. Clever, and cool to see.

Beer still in the very modern facilities at Four Roses.

Beer still in the very modern facilities at Four Roses.

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Hiatus

It’s pretty obvious I’ve been taking one anyway, but I thought I’d make it official — I’m taking a break until February.  I have so many stories to tell, but the pressure of getting them out is knotting them up, which is having the frustrating effect of making it HARDER to get them out.  (Seriously — I typed, “My mom came with me to Taipei on a business trip.  We had fun.” and then stared at the page for 3 hours.)  I’ve also been spending too much time in my head, which has also been making it harder to write.  I know — who would have guessed?  It turns out moderation really is the key to everything.

I’m going to keep writing, but I think taking the pressure of publishing off for a little bit will help recharge my creative juices and help the stories come out intact.  Please come back in February, when I’ll share adventures from Taipei, Memphis, and Louisville.  Thanks for your patience.

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