In noting that I surprised myself with strong feelings about cold brew coffee, my friend Dan asked, gently, for a list of things about which I do not have strong feelings. This was a few weeks ago, and I have been struggling with this ever since. Now, in my defense, it’s difficult to think of things that you don’t care about. Try it. I’ll give you a couple of minutes. It’s the nature of things that you don’t care about not to be sitting in your brain waiting to be called up, which makes it a good brain exercise (that’s what I’m claiming anyway). So here’s my attempt at listing things about which I do not have strong feelings:
- Ending sentences with prepositions. I try not to do it, but if it happens, whatever. I read an article a while back that went into the history of the rule, and it turns out that the rule has been arbitrary and random since its inception. If there’s no good reason for it, like clarity in communication, I can let it go.
- How people rear and educate their children. I do not have children. Teaching them how to become decent, productive members of society looks really hard. How parents choose to do this is none of my business. Even if I did have children, how other people rear and educate theirs is STILL none of my business. Nope. Apparently, I have strong feelings about this, too, just not the way that most other people do.
- Paper or plastic bags at the grocery store. As long as my groceries get corralled in some way, I am happy.
- Things related to music. There are songs that I find fun to sing along with, and there are songs that recall happy memories for me. Other songs have lyrics that I love, and still others make menial chores go faster. Apart from that, though, I don’t know who sings what song or what was happening in the life of a band at a particular time. Most people would probably consider my taste in music to be unsophisticated or even downright bad. I don’t care what stereo plays my music or what earbuds or over-earphones I use to listen to music. My mind wanders during those conversations, not because I’m not trying but because it’s like listening to a foreign language I don’t speak.
- The food that other people eat.
- How menial chores get done.
- How other people spend their money.
- Shampoo (although I am against it when manufacturers combine shampoo and conditioner in the same bottle)
That’s as far as I’ve gotten, but I’ll keep working on this list and update in a future dribs and drabs post. If there are things that you don’t have strong feelings about that come to mind immediately, please share them in the comments.
Things I have no strong feelings about include sports and finance. I couldn’t be less interested in sportsball teams, games, statistics, etc. if I tried. Similarly finance. I only have investments and 401K type stuff because I know I’m supposed to and because, blessedly, there are people in the world who ARE interested in it and whom I can hire to think about it so I don’t have to.
So I would say that you feel strongly about your financial stability and strength, but that you don’t have strong feelings or care that much about the details. It’s the finest of lines, and I totally get what you’re saying.
Traveling for work for almost ten years in combination with the liquids limitations has beaten the upper pie chart right out of me.